Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate Author: Patti Stanger | Language: English | ISBN:
B001NLL62G | Format: PDF
Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate Description
If you've ever found yourself picking off your nail polish, sitting in your sweats with an empty carton of Ben & Jerry's, wondering, "Where are all the good men, and why isn't a gorgeous one standing shirtless in my kitchen mixing me up a pomegranate mojito?" I hate to tell you this, but it's your own fault. Not to worry -- I'm here to help you make that fantasy a reality, with one major addition: you'll be sipping that mojito with a big, glittering diamond ring on your left hand.
Sounds too good to be true? It isn't. As a third-generation matchmaker and the president of one of the world's most elite dating services -- the Millionaire's Club -- I've put myself in the enviable position of being friend, confi dante, and relationship counselor to men and women the world over. I know what the good guys want in a wife, and what sends them screaming into the night. Now I'm sharing their secrets with you.
I've compiled my best tried-and-true advice and I'm going to tell you the things that even your best friend doesn't have the courage to break to you. If you follow my formula, the man of your dreams will appear in your life, and you can be in a committed, monogamous relationship with him in
less than a year. Get ready -- I'm about to show you how to make all your relationship dreams come true.
- File Size: 382 KB
- Print Length: 288 pages
- Publisher: Atria Books (January 13, 2009)
- Sold by: Simon and Schuster Digital Sales Inc
- Language: English
- ASIN: B001NLL62G
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- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #50,652 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
There is some really good practical advice about being the best you that you can be and excellent advice about taking a break from dating for a time while you get your head cleared of any negative talk.
I don't think redheads need to dye their hair to attract a man. I don't think you need to have long hair to attract a man, especially if you don't good w/ long hair (I look awful w/ long hair. never have looked good w/ it. My hair looks best when it's a medium length) and I don't think you need to run around w/ an index card sized calling card w/ your photo and personal stats on it (although it might be useful if you're attending a lot of dating events). To me that just comes off a bit weird. but the suggestions to take time w/ your appearance even if you're just running out to the grocery store and for a few errands, did prove useful. (met 2 guys at the hardware store when I was buying some tools and later another time when I was in the gardening section. A lot of unattached single guys there on Friday nights. the hardware store might have to start charging a cover charge.)
I also did try some of the places she suggested meeting people and had some success and it inspired me to think outside of the box when thinking of where to meet people. (I used to play golf so I did go to the driving range and I met a few available guys there. It's a neighborhood range so I won't meet any millionaires there but then I'm not looking for one. I also became more active in my favorite charities and have met some men through there. I really have no interest in watching sports so I don't see the point in faking it--it sets up a false impression of who you are.) Try new things and do activities that interest you. When you're engaged in the activity, you become engaging.
I borrowed this book from the library and I read it in a few hours. It is very light and entertaining, but I would not follow it like a road map. I agree with some of her tips, such as her advice to not have sex early in a relationship or even to wait until marriage and to allow the man to pay for all the dates. But her book gives the impression that the entire responsibility for making a connection that leads to marriage rests with the woman and that a woman should manipulate her way into a man's heart.
She suggests that all women straighten their hair, wear sexy high heels and always look perfect while with the man she wants to become her husband. But for how long can a woman pretend to have a style or identity that is not her own? What happens when "Cinderella" reveals herself? What is to stop a man from divorcing a woman if she changes after marriage? Adopting a fake persona in order to win a man's heart is not a sensible strategy for a woman who wants a marriage that will last, hopefully forever. Better to let him see you with your curly hair and comfortable shoes in the beginning so he can decide whether he likes the real you, rather than end up divorced after he discovers the real you.
I also think it's interesting that she puts women of color in a separate "exotic" category, and not in the "sexpot" "intellectual", "girl next door", or "cute and perky". So a nonwhite woman cannot be intelligent, sexy or cute? According to her, women like Halle Berry, Lucy Lui, Shakira, Iman and Salma Hayek "are not considered beautiful, but their features are presented in a unique way" What does it mean to have "uniquely presented" features? Are their noses attached to their foreheads instead of in the middle of their faces? I think all of the aforementioned women are beautiful.
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