When Sorry Isn't Enough: Making Things Right with Those You Love Author: Gary D Chapman Jennifer M. Thomas | Language: English | ISBN:
B00B7TGZSY | Format: EPUB
When Sorry Isn't Enough: Making Things Right with Those You Love Description
Relationships are fragile. And whether fractured by a major incident
or a minor irritation, the ensuing emotions can often feel insurmountable preventing
the relationship from moving forward or the offended from moving on. In order to
make things right, something more than "sorry" is needed. #1 New York Times
bestselling author Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas have teamed up to deliver this
groundbreaking study of how we give and receive apologies. It's not just a matter
of will, but it's a matter of how you say, "I'm sorry" that ultimately makes things
right with those you love. This book will help you discover why certain apologies
clear the path for emotional healing, reconciliation, and freedom, while others
fall desperately short.
- File Size: 437 KB
- Print Length: 177 pages
- Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0802407048
- Publisher: Northfield Publishing; New Edition edition (April 22, 2013)
- Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
- Language: English
- ASIN: B00B7TGZSY
- Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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- Lending: Enabled
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MP Newsroom and Northfield publishing were kind enough to send Lisa and I this book to review as well as keep as a family resource. You might recognize Gary Chapman's name from his bestselling work '5 Love Languages', Jennifer Thomas also is a well known writer and psychologist. Together they teamed to make this work possible, here is what I think about it:
Contents:
Introduction:WhyThisIsImportant. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9
1. Righting Wrongs. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .13
2. "I'm Sorry":Expressing Regret.........................................21
3. "I Was Wrong":Accepting Responsibility..............................33
4. "How Can I Make It Right?":Making Restitution.....................45
5. "I Want to Change":GenuinelyRepenting............................59
6. "Can You Find It in Your Heart...":Requesting Forgiveness. . . . . . . .73
7. How Do You Say You're Sorry?..........................................83
8. What If You Don't Want to Apologize?.................................93
9. Learning to Forgive . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109
10.Healing Your Family Relationships.................................. 125
11.Choosing to Forgive Yourself......................................... 139
12.Truly Sorry, TrulyForgiven............................................ 149
Notes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 155
Acknowledgments. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
Gary Chapman usually does excellent work & it was really disappointing to wind up with a sense of having been duped into buying a book I already owned under a different title.
This is merely a rebadging and refreshing of his earlier work The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships. In my view, the earlier work was better and I wonder what might have led them (Gary & his co-author Jennifer Thomas)to decide on a new title & coverwork & give the impression of having written something new.
The disappointment expressed, the contents are still highly useful. And the simple test is revelatory - for example, I learnt that I tend to offer apologies in the language of Taking Responsibility with undertones of Expressing Regret and yet I prefer to be offered apologies in the language of Expressing Regret with undertones of Taking Responsibility.'
For me, a key gap is sound advice on how to ask for an apology. The authors write "The desire for reconcilliation is often more potent than the desire for justice" and yet they gloss over how to figure out the way(s) in which you feel wronged and ask for a fitting apology from the other person. The only advice seems to be "releasing the person to god" which might work if you are religious or more inclined towards justice than restoring trust & reconciling. People don't always know how (or even that) they've wounded you, a few clues and a simple request might work wonders.
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