When Sorry Isn't Enough: Making Things Right with Those You Love Author: Gary D Chapman | Language: English | ISBN:
0802407048 | Format: PDF
When Sorry Isn't Enough: Making Things Right with Those You Love Description
From the Back Cover
"I said I was sorry!"
Even in the best of relationships, all of us make mistakes. We do and say things we later regret and hurt the people we love most. So we need to make things right. But simply saying you're sorry is usually not enough.
In this book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas unveil new ways to effectively approach and mend fractured relationships. Even better, you'll discover how meaningful apologies provide the power to make your friendships, family, and marriage stronger than ever before.
When Sorry Isn't Enough will help you . . .
· Cool down heated arguments
· Offer apologies that are fully accepted
· Rekindle love that has been dimmed by pain
· Restore and strengthen valuable relationships
· Trade in tired excuses for honesty, trust, and joy
This book was previously published as The Five Languages of Apology. Content has been significantly revised and updated.
About the Author
GARY CHAPMAN, PhD, is the author of the #1 New York Times bestselling The 5 Love Languages. With over 30 years of counseling experience, he has the uncanny ability to hold a mirror up to human behavior, showing readers not just where they go wrong, but also how to grow and move forward. Dr. Chapman holds BA and MA degrees in anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University, respectively, MRE and PhD degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has completed postgraduate work at the University of North Carolina and Duke University. For more information visit his website at www.5lovelanguages.com.
JENNIFER M. THOMAS, Ph.D., is a graduate of the University of Virginia and psychologist with Associates in Christian Counseling in Winston-Salem, North Carolina. Jennifer counsels on a wide variety of individual and couples' issues from communication to trauma recovery and spiritual healing and is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors. Jennifer is co-author of The Five Languages of Apology with Dr. Gary Chapman. Visit her website at www.drjenthomas.com. Jennifer and her husband, J.T., serve together on the marriage team at their home church and have three children.
- Paperback: 176 pages
- Publisher: Northfield Publishing; New Edition edition (April 12, 2013)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0802407048
- ISBN-13: 978-0802407047
- Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.1 x 0.4 inches
- Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
MP Newsroom and Northfield publishing were kind enough to send Lisa and I this book to review as well as keep as a family resource. You might recognize Gary Chapman's name from his bestselling work '5 Love Languages', Jennifer Thomas also is a well known writer and psychologist. Together they teamed to make this work possible, here is what I think about it:
Contents:
Introduction:WhyThisIsImportant. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9
1. Righting Wrongs. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .13
2. "I'm Sorry":Expressing Regret.........................................21
3. "I Was Wrong":Accepting Responsibility..............................33
4. "How Can I Make It Right?":Making Restitution.....................45
5. "I Want to Change":GenuinelyRepenting............................59
6. "Can You Find It in Your Heart...":Requesting Forgiveness. . . . . . . .73
7. How Do You Say You're Sorry?..........................................83
8. What If You Don't Want to Apologize?.................................93
9. Learning to Forgive . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109
10.Healing Your Family Relationships.................................. 125
11.Choosing to Forgive Yourself......................................... 139
12.Truly Sorry, TrulyForgiven............................................ 149
Notes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 155
Acknowledgments. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
Gary Chapman usually does excellent work & it was really disappointing to wind up with a sense of having been duped into buying a book I already owned under a different title.
This is merely a rebadging and refreshing of his earlier work The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships. In my view, the earlier work was better and I wonder what might have led them (Gary & his co-author Jennifer Thomas)to decide on a new title & coverwork & give the impression of having written something new.
The disappointment expressed, the contents are still highly useful. And the simple test is revelatory - for example, I learnt that I tend to offer apologies in the language of Taking Responsibility with undertones of Expressing Regret and yet I prefer to be offered apologies in the language of Expressing Regret with undertones of Taking Responsibility.'
For me, a key gap is sound advice on how to ask for an apology. The authors write "The desire for reconcilliation is often more potent than the desire for justice" and yet they gloss over how to figure out the way(s) in which you feel wronged and ask for a fitting apology from the other person. The only advice seems to be "releasing the person to god" which might work if you are religious or more inclined towards justice than restoring trust & reconciling. People don't always know how (or even that) they've wounded you, a few clues and a simple request might work wonders.
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